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at the end of my month on match, i neglected to renew my membership. i went out on 10 dates with 2 second dates and 1 third. i met some great girls that i’m sure will make some dudes really happy, but to be honest online dating is not for me. i had trouble juggling the amount of work that goes into managing your match account. it’s like a second job. i’m not saying you shouldn’t give it a shot if you’re thinking about it. i think everyone needs to try it at some point even if it’s just an experiment. at least you’ll have some good stories to tell your friends. i have plenty, but i’ll save them for the next time we grab a beer.
OkCupid: you use it to find both love or random hookups, and since tomorrow is Valentine’s Day, you’re probably looking for at least one of those. Accordingly, we have Sam Yagan, one of the dating site’s founders, here to answer all your burning (let’s hope not) questions.
Some young single people today would rather have information than mystery. When Jason Austin, a 29-year-old IT professional, was skeptical of a potential date he’d met online, he did what anyone who’s seen an episode of “Catfish” (or just has plain common sense) would do: He turned to Facebook.
Considering there’s really just over 24 hours left to secure a warm V-Day body, the time for formalities has passed, and the immediacy of location-based, mobile dating apps is what you need.
In fact OkCupid’s data show that men message women who they believe appeal only to them before messaging women who they believe will appeal to everyone. “If you have something that makes you unique, even if some might consider it a flaw, flaunt it,” says Yagan. “Flaunt your big nose, curvy full figure or weird snaggletooth, and you’ll attract that kind of person who finds it exciting.”
In other words, if you want to find true romance, Yagan advises, “Look for the 1% who will love you for who you really are.”
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.
Researchers say that if you want to land a date online this year, your best chance will be tonight [January 2nd] at 8:52 PM. Why 8:52 PM? Because the combination of going back to work and New Year’s resolutions will make millions of people sign onto their Internet dating sites looking for a date. The more people online, the better your chances. You have less than an hour to find someone!
Lauren Dollard… said her low credit score had helped to stall her romantic plans. Her boyfriend is wary of marrying her until she can significantly pay down the more than $150,000 she owes in student loans and bolster her credit score, she said.
Ms. Dollard’s credit score is so low, around 600, that she hasn’t been able to qualify for a car loan. She sympathizes with her boyfriend’s position because he “doesn’t ever want to be accountable for the irresponsible financial decision I made,” she said. Her boyfriend declined to be interviewed.
John Hendrix… said he worried that the vast disparity between his girlfriend’s credit score and his own low one could create tension in their relationship. When the couple leased a car in October, Mr. Hendrix had to leave his name off the contract because his poor credit scuttled his chances for the bargain interest rate that his girlfriend qualified for.
Mr. Hendrix said he resented that his credit score, which he said was marred by a single contested cable bill, has limited his access to credit. “I always pay my bills so it’s pretty ridiculous that a billing error can ruin your score,” he said. His girlfriend declined to be interviewed.
After being saved from kidnapping, you discover you’re the daughter of the prime minister and your life is in imminent danger. You are introduced to a handful of handsome bodyguards, and must decide who you want to protect you 24 hours a day.
That’s the scenario for one of several role-playing “love games” currently popular in Japan, allowing women to safely spend time with their choice of Mr. Right without actually dealing with a live person - even as marriage rates in Japan fall.
It’s kind of like, men go into a panic mode and start doing the courtship dance of “Look at all this money I can spend on you” if they there’s a shortage of women, say researchers, which goes back to our evolutionary roots.
This might explain why it’s so common to hear in New York City (which is abounding with single women): “How about we just grab some street food and head to $1 PBR night?”
Online dating/procrastination site iDreamofU allows you to “build your own Christian Grey” (their lingo, not ours), choosing which features — facial shape, eye color, the works — you find most attractive, and then matching you with a real, live individual who looks like the dream guy you’ve created.
Of the sixteen The Bachelor shows, only four relationships from the show lasted at least a year. Only two couples are still together. In contrast, five of the seven The Bachelorette seasons led to relationships that lasted at least a year. (Although only two of the couples are still together.)
Why the difference? Just chance, or does it tell us something about men, women, and relationships?
And who can blame me? Identifying intuition as negativity so as to justify moronic actions? I mean, it is a solid way to be.
Brian and I met for drinks, struggled to drum up conversation, settled eventually on a back-and-forth about the perils of waiting tables. We additionally discussed my encyclopedic knowledge of seasons one and two of “30 Rock.” Brian insisted on walking me home. Having arrived at my front door, he asked, “Why don’t we head upstairs and, um, watch a little ’30 Rock’?” at which point I felt self-delightedly quirky for having had “30 Rock” used on me as part of a seduction.
By 8 p.m., Brian and I had plowed through half of season one of “30 Rock.” Yet nary a move had been made. Brian excused himself to go to the bathroom. I texted a friend requesting advice. I’m not usually one for such rom-com-y behavior, but I was desperate, confused by the signals. I wrote, “Does he just want 2 watch TV??? Tell me wht 2 do!!!” and my friend wrote back, “OBVI he is shy! He wnts YOU 2 make a move!”
But no, I thought. It cannot be.
And sports and conversation in general. I kid.
Bonus Adam Carolla audio clip included in article.
Single at the age of 39, I’ve often wondered why none of my relationships lasted the distance, but had always put it down to luck and timing — assuming I had neither on my side.
But recently, my friend Steven threw some cold, harsh light on the subject.
“Your problem is that you’re really snippy,” he said.
“Snippy?” I asked, not entirely sure what he meant.
“Yes, snippy,” he said. “Abrupt. Critical. If someone says or does something wrong, then you’re onto it straight away. Men will ignore a lot of things if they fancy someone — a weird dress sense, or taking hours getting ready to go out — but they hate being put down or made to feel small. You can be funny, but sometimes it’s way too close for comfort.”