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A Written Agreement Could Be The Thing That Saves Your Relationship « CBS New York

“If someone wants a sex schedule, two times a week, or three times a week, I can’t take that agreement into a courtroom and ask that it be enforced,” Carrozza explained.

The agreements are not not legally binding, according to experts, but serve as a symbolic way to bind couples.

Not sure what the point is then.

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The Ideal Praise-to-Criticism Ratio - Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman - Harvard Business Review

[A]nalysis of wedded couples’ likelihood of getting divorced or remaining married… Once again, the single biggest determinant is the ratio of positive to negative comments the partners make to one another. And the optimal ratio is amazingly similar — five positive comments for every negative one. (For those who ended up divorced, the ratio was 0.77 to 1 — or something like three positive comments for every four negative ones.)

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How to pick a wife if you want to have kids | Penelope Trunk Blog

Recently I wrote a post about how to pick a husband if you want to have kids. A lot of people asked that I write the male corollary to that post. So, here it is.

This post is about identity. How to see yourself. How to figure out if you can remake yourself. How to make a life that is true to yourself. And, put more bluntly, how to get the best deal in a wife given who you are.

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Hess concedes that there are disadvantages to living apart: Sex and companionship are less readily available, and such couples miss the shared creativity that comes with making a home. “They will have less of an opportunity to create or try to replicate their original family closeness,” she adds. But for her and others of her ilk, the advantages are far more pronounced: Time together is truly quality, not cluttered with mundane chores; personal idiosyncrasies tend to be appreciated, the way they are at the start of a relationship, instead of slowly morphing into grating annoy­ances; differences in standards of neatness and tastes in music and decor don’t need to be constantly negotiated or suffered through. “The partners who do not live together can come together out of choice and desire, rather than because they share the same space and have no other options,” she writes.

Staying Together By Living Apart - ELLE.com - ELLE

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PJ Lifestyle » Advice From a Happy Wife to Young Women

Shaidle compares McMillian’s book to other advice books of the past, one of which I devoured in my 20‘s, Advice to a Young Wife from an Old Mistress. I am struck by the differences in the advice. The old advice focused on how to be a good woman. The new advice, however, focuses on how not to be a bad person.

The really short summary of Advice to a Young Wife: have a life and don’t nag. More eloquently, Advice to a Young Wife maintains, “One is born female, but being a woman is a personal accomplishment.”

How did it come to pass that the generation of women who have more opportunity than any generation of women in history have to be reminded not to be bitchy, selfish, shallow, or a liar?

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All the Perks of Divorce, but without Marriage - Law Blog - WSJ

Just across the northern border, in Quebec, couples have long enjoyed rules permitting “de facto” spouse status — all two people need do are live together more than a year and check a box on their income tax statement. When the relationship ends — whether it’s a matter of years or decades — there is no legal support obligation.

Sounds like your libertarian bachelor cousin’s dream, doesn’t it?

This summer, the Supreme Court of Canada is expected to rule on a case that could change all that, according to Slate. The case involves a de facto couple that ended their relationship ten years ago — after living together for a decade — and have three kids together. Oh, and he’s a billionaire. The woman challenged Quebec’s law and sought everything to which a married woman would be entitled, claiming that the law discriminates against unmarried couples.

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Freakonomics » Why Do American Women Work More Than Europeans?

if divorce rates are higher in a society, women have a higher incentive to obtain work experience in case they find themselves alone in the future. The reason the incentive is higher is because in our data, women happen to be the second earner in the household more often than men. European women anticipate not getting divorced as often and hence find less reason to insure themselves by working as much as American women.

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gq:

Including…Five Things You Should Never Say To Your Wife





1. “Fuck you” (sincere version). Obviously, saying it in jest is just dandy. I did it six times just now.
2. “You’re not my mother.” I’ve said this to my wife a couple of times, and her reaction has always been unfavorable.
3. “Huh?” Oh, so you weren’t listening to anything she said.
4. “I mean, we saw your parents just last month, didn’t we?” You hate her parents. You just announced it.
5. “Come here. Let me give you a hug” (when she’s pissed). Angry women hate being smothered with affection. It’s like shooting a bear with a BB gun and then trying to cuddle it. Not that your wife is a bear.
[By Drew Magary]

gq:

Including…
Five Things You Should Never Say To Your Wife

1. “Fuck you” (sincere version).
Obviously, saying it in jest is just dandy. I did it six times just now.

2. “You’re not my mother.”
I’ve said this to my wife a couple of times, and her reaction has always been unfavorable.

3. “Huh?”
Oh, so you weren’t listening to anything she said.

4. “I mean, we saw your parents just last month, didn’t we?”
You hate her parents. You just announced it.

5. “Come here. Let me give you a hug” (when she’s pissed).
Angry women hate being smothered with affection. It’s like shooting a bear with a BB gun and then trying to cuddle it. Not that your wife is a bear.

[By Drew Magary]

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Does Facebook Wreck Marriages? - Real-Time Advice - SmartMoney

More than a third of divorce filings last year contained the word Facebook, according to a U.K. survey by Divorce Online, a legal services firm. And over 80% of U.S. divorce attorneys say they’ve seen a rise in the number of cases using social networking, according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. 

“Affairs happen with a lightning speed on Facebook,” says K. Jason Krafsky, who authored the book “Facebook and Your Marriage” with his wife Kelli. In the real world, he says, office romances and out-of-town trysts can take months or even years to develop. “On Facebook,” he says, “they happen in just a few clicks.” The social network is different from most social networks or dating sites in that it both re-connects old flames and allows people to “friend” someone they may only met once in passing. “It puts temptation in the path of people who would never in a million years risk having an affair,” he says. 

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